An essential element of shibari/kinbaku/semenawa is impact pain, which I consciously seek to integrate into a session. For me it i’s not about inflicting severe pain on someone, but rather about increasing the scope of experience for the other person. I classify pain on a scale of 0-10, with 10here being ten is the maximum pain my playing partner is able tocan endure at that moment.

Pain releases a series of endorphins that can take the experience to an emotional depth that is difficult or even impossible to achieve with „vanilla sex“. As models, it makes sense not to fight against the pain, but to melt into it, to understand it as a friend and embrace it. An intensive session is able to open doors to traumas, to touch someone very deeply and to look deep into their soul and their energies. The energies flow in both directions, i.e. from the rigger to the model and back. Both playing partners should be aware of this and, if possible, have the ability to maintain the energetic space in the session, with the rigger usually bearing the brunt.

Good aftercare is a very important element at the end of a session. On the one hand, it serves to balance out the energies and, on the other hand, to “come down” from the energy level triggered by the session. This process sometimes only takes a few minutes, but can also take a longer period of time (days/weeks). During this time I always remain energetically connected to my models.